“Togetherness is a hugely important aspect of life. It unites us, gives us security, much-needed support and a sense of belonging, and encourages us to love one another.” Sir Richard Branson
They’ve done it again! Last time I wrote about the coming together of KenBrits to celebrate one another with each other – read it here. In that post, I mentioned that more events were in the pipeline. Well, last Saturday they have done it again. This time much bigger, swankier, elegant and fast paced at the Sopwell House – a picturesque hotel in the beautiful Hertfordshire countryside where there are no street lights and roads are no bigger than lanes. The 90s dinner was a success and the hope is to see more of the same in the future.
The great occasion was graced by Sir Henry Otiende the ultimate MC, Njambi McGrath our very own KenBrit comedienne who cracked many a rib, and Kiprono Kittony who gave an inspiring speech. We can’t forget the heart-wrenching story of our dearly departed Spencer Onsongo, whose illness and subsequent death gave rise to the idea of 90s friends together – may he rest in eternal peace.
You know you’ve globalised, acclimatised and integrated when you go to a Kenyan do in the diaspora and there’s no mokimo, chapati or fish [salmon is not fish because it had no tail or eyes gaping at you], and dinner music is live slow/smooth jazz.
The guys looked exquisite in their penguin suits and the ladies’ outfits were deserving of the red-carpet-Oscars ready. Only when the disco started, did integration and westernisation go outta window – the hair was let down, some high heels were kicked off, some bow ties loosened, and the real Kenyan came out. Some wondered why there was no late night choma and soup. The hotel, after hosting one too many African type parties, has installed sound sensors on the walls. The music could not rise above a certain decibel and this was frustrating for most of us because we like our music ear-splitting loud.
And since a Kenyan party is not a party until the sun is out, there was an extension at a club not far from the hotel. We lit the place up. They want us back every weekend. Well, we’ll see….. we said in unison. As for those of us who assaulted motor vehicles …… God is watching…..
It was not all fun and games and eating there were great networking and photo opportunities. There was bouncing off of ideas and suggestions. E.g. in the future these events could be done to raise money for different initiatives in the diaspora or home – among many other suggestions.
As we keep up with such events to promote one another and self, let us remember what Kiprono said about having goals and pursuing dreams. We all know that staying focused and motivated is not always possible, you know with bills and all things diaspora [diaspora manenos]. But, there a few things I’ve heard about and practised that can put you one step closer to fulfilling your dreams and pursuing your goals.
Get a fresh focus on your goals – especially when motivation is lacking, refocussing and asking yourself what it is you really want to do and what you have to do to get it.
Make a list of the ups and of the downs – whenever motivation lacks look at these lists and strive to achieve or overcome the downs and congratulate yourself on the ups or improve on it.
Whatever you do – do not compare yourself with others. You can admire others and aspire to their achievements, but do not compare because this is the greatest motivation killer. If you need to compete with someone, set yourself higher goals and compete with your yesterself. Or compete with friendly fire – someone who wants the best for you and doesn’t feel threatened by your presence.
Remain positive even when the tide is high or low whichever is worse, workout to relieve stress and talk to a like-minded individual who can uplift you when you are feeling down. Have a someone who can tell it as it is when you are being an ass. Everyone should have such a person and be accountable to them – think about it.
And set aside time to have fun, relax, socialise – not at the same but maybe at the same. And more importantly pray, pray, pray and give thanks.
There are many ways to stay motivated or get motivation, but these are a few of my favourites and I swear by them [most of the time].
A special shout out to the organisers and volunteers – Steve Muiyoro, Rosemary Wairimu, Bernard Kamau, Josh Kimani, Wanja Patricks, Múkami Njindo, DJ Collo, Joanna Magiya, Susan Wangari Gakungu, Tim Mbugua, and last but not least MacMillan Ngochi Ragui. Thank you, guys, for a job well done.
Remember the African proverb – if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. Harambee!! ……..
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